Epilogue

How to Come Out as Gay Don't.

Don't come out unless you want to.

Don't come out for anyone else's sake.

Don't come out because you think society expects you to.

Come out for yourself.

Come out to yourself.

Shout, sing it.

Softly stutter.

Correct those who say they knew before you did.

That's not how sexuality works, it's yours to define.

Being effeminate doesn't make you gay.

Being sensitive doesn't make you gay.

Being gay makes you gay.

Be a bit gay, be very gay.

Be the glitter that shows up in unexpected places.

Be Typing ...

on WhatsApp but leave them waiting.

Throw a party for yourself but don't invite anyone else.

Invite everyone to your party but show up late or not at all.

If you're unhappy in the closet but afraid of what's outside, leave the door ajar and call out.

If you're happy in the closet for the time being, play dress-up until you find the right outfit.

Don't worry, it's okay to say you're gay and later exchange it for something else that suits you, fits, feels better.

Watch movies that make it seem a little less scary: Beautiful Thing , Moonlight .

Be southeast London, a daytime dance floor, his head resting on your shoulder.

Be South Beach, Miami, night of water and fire, your head resting on his shoulder.

Be the fabric of his shirt the muscles in his shoulder, your shoulder.

Be the bricks, be the sand.

Be the river, be the ocean.

Remember your life is not a movie.

Accept you will be coming out for your whole life.

Accept advice from people and sources you trust.

If your mother warns you about STDs within minutes of you coming out, try to understand that she loves you and is afraid.

If you come out at fifteen, this is not a badge of honor, it doesn't matter what age you come out.

Be a beautiful thing.

Be the moonlight, too.

Remember you have the right to be proud.

Remember you have the right to be you .